Breast to bottle: Why I made the switch

There’s a crazy amount of pressure put on new moms to breastfeed. Believe me, I experienced it first hand. Women are made to feel inadequate if they don’t succeed with it, which is definitely not what a new mom should be worrying about. We all know the phrase “breast is best,” it’s on all the handouts from the hospital and it’s all over the internet as well, only putting more pressure on moms to “tough it out.”

I toughed it out for 8 days. For 8 days, I went through the pain, engorgement, latching problems, sleepless nights, the tears. And I wonder if I would have saved myself from the physical and emotional pain that came with breastfeeding if I wasn’t doing it because it was what I was “supposed to do.” Every time I fed my son (which was sometimes as often as every 45 minutes) I would cry out from the toe curling pain from his latch, even though I was doing everything that the lactation consultant told me to do.

I was also dealing with recovery from delivery. I could hardly sit down without being in a tremendous amount of pain. I had zero appetite, and would go until 5pm before realizing I should probably eat something. Even going to the bathroom was a 20 minute task- with the pain of going and cleaning up- it was like a crime scene in there. (Sorry- but I feel like everyone needs to know just what women go through.)

I was miserable. I was not enjoying this sweet time with my newborn like all these other moms were. I cried every day. And I cried when I fed my baby his first formula bottle, because I felt as though I had failed. I remember googling to try and find some support for moms like me who switched to formula and finding hardly anything. Why is society shaming moms for doing what is best?

My son is almost 7 weeks old, and he now has a mom who is happy, more in the moment, and better rested to be there for him. My baby is also happier, gaining the weight he’s supposed to, and is doing great with formula feeding. I do not regret making the switch. And no mother should. We need to normalize moms who formula feed because of latch issues, or because of poor supply, or because they simply just don’t want to. It’s not only their choice, but it’s also no one else’s business.

I hope any moms that are reading this can feel reassured that they made the right choice for their baby, and to not kick themselves for choosing to stop their breastfeeding journey. Just remember- fed is best!

Meet the Donovans!

Hi everyone! We’re the Donovans. You probably know us as @zirathecorgi on social media. But while being corgi pawrents is a huge part of our lives, there’s so much more to us – as individuals, as a couple, and as a family. We can’t wait to share more of our lives with you. So we’re starting now!

We’d like to introduce ourselves. If you don’t know yet, we’re Jesse (left) and Kasey (right)!

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Jesse is an artist and Kasey is a freelance writer. Together, we’ve empowered one another to pursue our passions and become better people. Our love for each other has withstood thousands of miles, family drama, and difficult pasts. We lift each other up and our love is getting stronger every day.

You may recognize us from our video of our double proposal at Disneyland!

This is just one testament to how truly magical our lives are. Neither of us had any idea the other one was planning to propose at the exact same time. As we said in our interview with Cosmopolitan, “It was the happiest moment, at the happiest place on Earth.” And we had no idea our proposal would go viral. It was mind-boggling to go from proposing to talking on the phone with Cosmo for an interview and seeing our faces everywhere online. We even had people at Disneyland coming up to us because they recognized us from the video! The publicity of it all was admittedly overwhelming at times, but we’re so happy that the video has spread so much joy and hope to the world. It’s one of the happiest moments of our lives and it’s a blessing to be able to share that.

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You may also know about us from this tweet about Zira!

This was our first piece of viral content and it was just pure luck. We snapped some pictures of Zira, put them on Twitter, and suddenly all these big news outlets were making articles about it, including BuzzFeed, Complex, and Bravo.

But we also got a lot of criticism – both constructive and hostile – about taking Zira into a store that only allows service dogs. We learned a valuable lesson and used our platform to apologize and spread awareness about protecting service dogs and their handlers. We even made a blog post and video about shopping at dog-friendly stores.

Since then, we’ve been building a social media presence around Zira and everyone else we add to the family!

Here is a brief introduction to each of our lovely pets:

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Zira is 5/8 Pembroke Welsh Corgi and 3/8 Miniature Australian Shepherd. She is the spunkiest, fastest, and most unique dog ever. Her favorite thing is to give us kisses and she wants to play all the time!

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This is Ellie! She’s Zira’s half sister and we got her when she was already 6 months old. We call her Ellie Girl most of the time. She’s the sweetest, cuddliest, and laziest pup we could ever want. With Zira and Ellie, we truly have the best of both worlds when it comes to corgis. They have such different and unique personalities. It makes life fun!

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This is Purrdita! We adopted her from the SPCA and she’s literally the best cat in the world. She lets you pick her up and pet her whenever you want. She always meows at you when she sees you and she gets along great with the pups. And while her name is Purrdita, we usually just call her “kitty.”

We have a lot more to share with you all – from our home renovations to our desire to keep growing our family (eep!), but that will all come in due time. We don’t want to overwhelm you with a whole bunch of information. But from now on, our social media profiles and blog will be geared towards our entire family instead of just the dogs. We’re excited for you to be a part of our grand adventure!

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